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deepthroating patriarchy

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collage by me, saw a cheap flower calendar in the shop, couldn’t resist buying it and now revamping it.

reblogged from radical feminist answers

  • What do you think about deep-throating? I’ve heard men say that it excites them to see a woman choking and gagging on their dick and that they enjoy seeing the girls mascara ruined from the tears. But it seems like some girls are into it too. – Anonymous
  • Answer:

    “I’ve heard men say that it excites them to see a woman choking and gagging on their dick and that they enjoy seeing the girls mascara ruined from the tears”

    Read again the italicized part that I copied from your ask.

    This is not about choice. This is not about consent. This is about the fact that men love and orgasm from seeing women in pain. Men inflict violence on women and have the hide to ejaculate over it. Deep throating usually involves forced exertion as well – where the male will push the woman’s head for her to go deeper. Coercion and force is rape.

    Women and men are socialized into submission and dominance. Women internalize submission as much as men are taught to be violent. The importance of this in regards to sex is that our choices during sex do not detract from the violence of the act. This is because choices under a patriarchal society are influenced by misogyny, so excusing a misogynistic act or idea because of ‘choice’ is pointless.

    Men are valued upon how well they abide by gender – masculinity. Men dominate women; whether it be through sex, rape, physical/mental/verbal abuse – because it makes them feel ‘more like a man’ ie. more ‘masculine’. This is why gender must be abolished.

    An act like deep throating should make us feel sick, unsafe and uneasy. It should make everyone want to riot. Instead, we all stick a ‘there was consent’ sticker on it to excuse it, as though our consent is not influenced by the society we live in. As though the teenage magazines young girls read don’t tell us to be more ‘kinky’ in bed. As though porn doesn’t teach us to ‘take it’. As though men don’t rape women into compliance. As though men wanting to see women crying in pain for him to ejaculate is normal.

    Collective female liberation trumps individual, patriarchally influenced ‘choice’.

    – Ash